Using Your Fear Of Death To Live Life To The Fullest

The thought of death is something that most people avoid due to the anxiety and pain  it causes. However, one psychology expert believes that we must face our fear of death to live a truly fulfilling life according to CNBC Make It.

Jodi Wellman has a Masters degree in applied positive psychology from the University of Pennsylvania. She’s best known for her wellbeing Four Thousand Mondays and her new book “You Only Die Once” which helps people to lead more meaningful lives.

“My top tip is to get granular with what I call mortality math,” says Wellman, “most people like to count their money and I like to say how about we also count our Mondays?”

She says that on average we have about 4,000 Mondays in our entire life and urges people to check how many Mondays they have left every week using her calculator. Doing this reminds us of the scarcity of time which tends to make people take control of their lives and reach their full potential.

This system is based on something called “temporal scarcity,” which is the concept that we value things more when we know they’re temporary.

“So we have to get really in tune with the temporary nature of our lives ... because otherwise, we won’t take action, we will languish,” Wellman states.

Many people choose to stay in unfulfilling jobs and put off hobbies and passion for work. However, the mindset that you can do these things later is a dangerous thing. “Later is an elusive time that may never come,” Wellman said. Once you finally realize how many days you might have left you’ll probably rethink canceling art class again.

A good way to find out what you want and what should change is to think about the things you would regret if you were going to die tonight. “If you were going to die tonight what would you wish you had taken action on? Maybe there’s an opportunity to start that today,” Wellman says.

There are a lot of scary things happening this Halloween, but have you ever wondered what really scares Americans?

New research by Area52 reveals the top fears in each US state and which fears are overall the most common across the country. This data was collected using Google Keyword Tool Area52 analyzed 49 fears, chosen from The Chapman University Survey of American Fears Wave 7 (2020/2021) study. Those were then analyzed against Google Trends data to see which fear US states were most affected by.

In North Carolina ware biggest fear is death. Take a look at each state's fear below. It just may scare you!

The people of the District of Columbia fear having a difficult time escaping the most. Some trapped feelings in this state for sure!

Death is the biggest phobia in this state.

Clusters of Small Holes is the biggest phobia in this state. I still have no idea what that actually means...

Death is the biggest phobia in this state.

People are the biggest fear in this state. My mom always said, fear the living not the dead!

People are the biggest fear in this state. My mom always said, fear the living not the dead!

The fear of being alone is the biggest phobia in this state.

Death is the biggest phobia in this state.

Gross. Vomit is the biggest phobia in this state.

Blood is the biggest fear in this state. I guess they don't get labs done much!

Guess these residents won't be climbing anytime soon. This state fears heights the most!

Clowns are the biggest phobia in this state! Guess the circus doesn't come through often.

Guess these residents won't be climbing anytime soon. This state fears heights the most!

Back away from those needles. That is the biggest fear in this state!

The dark is the biggest phobia in this state. Guess their electric bills are high!

The dark is the biggest phobia in this state. Guess their electric bills are high!

People are the biggest fear in this state. My mom always said, fear the living not the dead!

Clowns are the biggest phobia in this state! Guess the circus doesn't come through often.

The dark is the biggest phobia in this state. Guess their electric bills are high!

Being without a mobile device is the biggest phobia in this state. I think we have some influencers living in this state!

The fear of being alone is the biggest phobia in this state.

Back away from those needles and don't bleed. Why? Needles and blood are the two biggest phobias in this state. What a tie!

Blood is the biggest fear in this state. I guess they don't get labs done much!

The dark is the biggest phobia in this state. Guess their electric bills are high!

Excuse me...can someone else make this speech? The number one fear is public speaking in this state.

The fear of being alone is the biggest phobia in this state.

Oh boy, this state is not a fan of spiders. That is their biggest fear!

Death is the biggest phobia in this state.

The fear of being alone is the biggest phobia in this state.

Gross. Vomit is the biggest phobia in this state.

Back away from those needles. That is the biggest fear in this state!

Confined Spaces are the number one fear in this state.

People are the biggest fear in this state. My mom always said, fear the living not the dead!

Death is the biggest phobia in this state.

People are the biggest fear in this state. My mom always said, fear the living not the dead!

The dark is the biggest phobia in this state. Guess their electric bills are high!

Blood is the biggest fear in this state. I guess they don't get labs done much!

Back away from those needles and definitely don't do it in the dark. There is a tie between needles and the dark in this state.

People are the biggest fear in this state. My mom always said, fear the living not the dead!

The people here have the biggest fear of holes. I guess they really watch where they step.

The fear of being alone is the biggest phobia in this state.

The people here have the biggest fear of holes. I guess they really watch where they step.

The fear of being alone is the biggest phobia in this state.

Blood is the biggest fear in this state. I guess they don't get labs done much!

Imperfection is the biggest phobia in this state. Personally, I think these ugly veggies have character.

The people here fear having a difficult time escaping the most. Some trapped feelings in this state for sure!

The fear of being alone is the biggest phobia in this state.

The fear of being alone is the biggest phobia in this state.

Clowns are the biggest phobia in this state! Guess the circus doesn't come through often.

Back away from those needles. That is the biggest fear in this state!

The people here have the biggest fear of holes. I guess they really watch where they step.

The top three most feared phobias in the US are…

Nyctophobia - fear of the dark
Does the idea of all the lights being turned off cause you panic and anxiety? Nyctophobia is extremely common in both young children and adults and it is no surprise it is one of the top searched for fears across the US - we are used to having access to light and especially this spooky season no one wants to be walking along a dark road by themselves.

Anthropophobia - fear of people
Although this term isn’t officially used within the medical society, the fear of people is real! Anthropophobia causes people to experience extreme feelings of social anxiety. In a country nearly as large as most continents it is no surprise that citizens are feeling overwhelmed by other people, especially after a year of being told to avoid others and keep their distance.

Monophobia - fear of being alone or isolated
Most people have a deep-rooted fear of being alone, but for some people, it is much more than that! As humans, we naturally gravitate to other humans, and similarly to Anthropophobia, Monophobia is a form of social anxiety but on the opposite spectrum. If you’re feeling like this, it is most likely others around you are too!