Using Your Fear Of Death To Live Life To The Fullest
The thought of death is something that most people avoid due to the anxiety and pain it causes. However, one psychology expert believes that we must face our fear of death to live a truly fulfilling life according to CNBC Make It.
Jodi Wellman has a Masters degree in applied positive psychology from the University of Pennsylvania. She’s best known for her wellbeing Four Thousand Mondays and her new book “You Only Die Once” which helps people to lead more meaningful lives.
“My top tip is to get granular with what I call mortality math,” says Wellman, “most people like to count their money and I like to say how about we also count our Mondays?”
She says that on average we have about 4,000 Mondays in our entire life and urges people to check how many Mondays they have left every week using her calculator. Doing this reminds us of the scarcity of time which tends to make people take control of their lives and reach their full potential.
This system is based on something called “temporal scarcity,” which is the concept that we value things more when we know they’re temporary.
“So we have to get really in tune with the temporary nature of our lives … because otherwise, we won’t take action, we will languish,” Wellman states.
Many people choose to stay in unfulfilling jobs and put off hobbies and passion for work. However, the mindset that you can do these things later is a dangerous thing. “Later is an elusive time that may never come,” Wellman said. Once you finally realize how many days you might have left you’ll probably rethink canceling art class again.
A good way to find out what you want and what should change is to think about the things you would regret if you were going to die tonight. “If you were going to die tonight what would you wish you had taken action on? Maybe there’s an opportunity to start that today,” Wellman says.
North Carolina's Top Fear and A List of the Top Fears in Each State
DC
The people of the District of Columbia fear having a difficult time escaping the most. Some trapped feelings in this state for sure!
Alabama
Death is the biggest phobia in this state.
Alaska
Clusters of Small Holes is the biggest phobia in this state. I still have no idea what that actually means…
Arizona
Death is the biggest phobia in this state.
Arkansas
People are the biggest fear in this state. My mom always said, fear the living not the dead!
California
People are the biggest fear in this state. My mom always said, fear the living not the dead!
Colorado
The fear of being alone is the biggest phobia in this state.
Connecticut
Death is the biggest phobia in this state.
Delaware
Gross. Vomit is the biggest phobia in this state.
Florida
Blood is the biggest fear in this state. I guess they don’t get labs done much!
Georgia
Guess these residents won’t be climbing anytime soon. This state fears heights the most!
Hawaii
Clowns are the biggest phobia in this state! Guess the circus doesn’t come through often.
Idaho
Guess these residents won’t be climbing anytime soon. This state fears heights the most!
Illinois
Back away from those needles. That is the biggest fear in this state!
Indiana
The dark is the biggest phobia in this state. Guess their electric bills are high!
Iowa
The dark is the biggest phobia in this state. Guess their electric bills are high!
Kansas
People are the biggest fear in this state. My mom always said, fear the living not the dead!
Kentucky
Clowns are the biggest phobia in this state! Guess the circus doesn’t come through often.
Louisiana
The dark is the biggest phobia in this state. Guess their electric bills are high!
Maine
Being without a mobile device is the biggest phobia in this state. I think we have some influencers living in this state!
Maryland
The fear of being alone is the biggest phobia in this state.
Massachusetts
Back away from those needles and don’t bleed. Why? Needles and blood are the two biggest phobias in this state. What a tie!
Michigan
Blood is the biggest fear in this state. I guess they don’t get labs done much!
Minnesota
The dark is the biggest phobia in this state. Guess their electric bills are high!
Mississippi
Excuse me…can someone else make this speech? The number one fear is public speaking in this state.
Missouri
The fear of being alone is the biggest phobia in this state.
Montana
Oh boy, this state is not a fan of spiders. That is their biggest fear!
Nebraska
Death is the biggest phobia in this state.
Nevada
The fear of being alone is the biggest phobia in this state.
New Hampshire
Gross. Vomit is the biggest phobia in this state.
New Jersey
Back away from those needles. That is the biggest fear in this state!
New Mexico
Confined Spaces are the number one fear in this state.
New York
People are the biggest fear in this state. My mom always said, fear the living not the dead!
North Carolina
Death is the biggest phobia in this state.
North Dakota
People are the biggest fear in this state. My mom always said, fear the living not the dead!
Ohio
The dark is the biggest phobia in this state. Guess their electric bills are high!
Oklahoma
Blood is the biggest fear in this state. I guess they don’t get labs done much!
Oregon
Back away from those needles and definitely don’t do it in the dark. There is a tie between needles and the dark in this state.
Pennsylvania
People are the biggest fear in this state. My mom always said, fear the living not the dead!
Rhode Island
The people here have the biggest fear of holes. I guess they really watch where they step.
South Carolina
The fear of being alone is the biggest phobia in this state.
South Dakota
The people here have the biggest fear of holes. I guess they really watch where they step.
Tennessee
The fear of being alone is the biggest phobia in this state.
Texas
Blood is the biggest fear in this state. I guess they don’t get labs done much!
Utah
Imperfection is the biggest phobia in this state. Personally, I think these ugly veggies have character.
Vermont
The people here fear having a difficult time escaping the most. Some trapped feelings in this state for sure!
Virgina
The fear of being alone is the biggest phobia in this state.
Washington
The fear of being alone is the biggest phobia in this state.
West Virginia
Clowns are the biggest phobia in this state! Guess the circus doesn’t come through often.
Wisconsin
Back away from those needles. That is the biggest fear in this state!
Wyoming
The people here have the biggest fear of holes. I guess they really watch where they step.
Top Searched Fears in the US
The top three most feared phobias in the US are…
Nyctophobia – fear of the dark
Does the idea of all the lights being turned off cause you panic and anxiety? Nyctophobia is extremely common in both young children and adults and it is no surprise it is one of the top searched for fears across the US – we are used to having access to light and especially this spooky season no one wants to be walking along a dark road by themselves.Anthropophobia – fear of people
Although this term isn’t officially used within the medical society, the fear of people is real! Anthropophobia causes people to experience extreme feelings of social anxiety. In a country nearly as large as most continents it is no surprise that citizens are feeling overwhelmed by other people, especially after a year of being told to avoid others and keep their distance.Monophobia – fear of being alone or isolated
Most people have a deep-rooted fear of being alone, but for some people, it is much more than that! As humans, we naturally gravitate to other humans, and similarly to Anthropophobia, Monophobia is a form of social anxiety but on the opposite spectrum. If you’re feeling like this, it is most likely others around you are too!
