Taylor Swift’s “You’re Losing Me” Was Actually Written Years Before Fans Thought
Taylor Swift released a song on streaming platforms yesterday called “You’re Losing Me”. If you are a casual Taylor fan, this may be a new track for you. The die-hards know that this track was quietly released at the end of May. It was on a special edition of Midnights that was only available at merch stands at some of the singer’s Eras Tour shows.
I remember listening for the first time to the audio on TikTok from a fan who purchased the CD and played it in their car for the world to hear. The track was also put on her website as a digital purchase for a few hours as well. I instantly fell in love with it. In fact, at the time, I called it one of the most “heartbreaking songs Taylor had ever released“.I stand by that statement. But what we learned yesterday, in the wake of the song dropping on streaming, makes it even more heartbreaking.
The Story Behind You’re Losing Me
“You’re Losing Me” details the days and weeks before a breakup. When you’re still together, but drifting apart. The bridge features a lyric that shakes me to my core- “And I wouldn’t marry me either, a pathological people pleaser, who only wanted you to see her”. It goes on to plead for her lover to ” do something babe, say something”. We first heard the song at the very end of May. This was a few weeks after it was announced in April that Taylor and long-time partner Joe Alwyn were done. The song is very clearly about Alwyn, with parallels to other songs about him. And the timing of its quiet release lines up as well. Though there was always some debate about exactly when the song was written. She dropped it after the breakup but referred to it “from the vault” of Midnights. Midnights was released in October of 2022.
There are theories that Midnights is the breakup album. There were theories that the reason “You’re Losing Me” was never on streaming sites was that it was a message to the fans, one that didn’t need to reach the masses. Many fans hypothesized this may be all she says about the breakup with Joe. But Taylor released the track on streaming this week, and it’s certainly shaken things up. First of all, now the whole world can (and will- Taylor was the most streamed artist of the year) hear the song. But more interestingly, was co-writer Jack Antonoff’s promotion of the track.
Jack Antonoff Drops A Swift/Alwyn Relationship Bomb
In an Instagram story posted on his account, Antonoff shared a photo of Swift that can be seen below. The photo was of her in a kitchen with the caption “You’re Losing Me” is out today. A very special track from the Midnights sessions that’s finally streaming! Written and recorded at home on 12/5/21 right after Taylor ate these raisins”.
Read that again. The date. December 5th, 2021. So not only was the song not written post-breakup or in the last few months of the relationship but it was RECORDED sixteen months before the news of the split made headlines. That’s 489 days. So it’s safe to say the relationship was going south for a while. It’s additionally important to note that Taylor does not do things unintentionally. And someone as close to her as Jack Antonoff, would not and did not drop this piece of information without her permission.
Jack Antonoff a confirmé que le titre "You're losing me" a été enregistré en 2021! pic.twitter.com/Q6DC3UuQSX— Taylor Swift France (@SwiftyFrance) November 30, 2023
This is a lot to process. But it wasn’t the only signal or easter egg Taylor left us with yesterday. Which means she is clearly trying to tell us something. One of the only true “love” songs on Midnights was a track called “Sweet Nothing”. A track that Alwyn has songwriting credit for (along with Swift), under the pseudonym William Bowery. So the song being autobiographical about the couple was a fair assumption to make. This leads us to a tweet Taylor liked on Twitter yesterday.
Insert Paul McCartney
"i would come back from a run with a poem to share and having listened linda would say 'what a mind'— paul mccartney archive (@maccaarchive) October 27, 2022
though the lines may not have been supreme, she wasn't merely being kind. she meant what she said.
it's going to make a man feel good, that kind of a thing."
- paul mccartney pic.twitter.com/lPsQKSwCMG
The tweet was from October 27, 2022. So this didn’t just come across her timeline while she was lying on the couch. She sought this out. This was, again like everything Swift does, an intentional message. You may be reading that again and saying what on earth does a tweet about Paul McCartney have to do with this situation? Fair question. Here are the lyrics to one of the verses from “Sweet Nothing”:
On the way homeI wrote a poem You say, “What a mind” This happens all the time
See the parallels? The track also mentions Wicklow, a place McCartney has ties to. Taylor Swift and Paul McCartney are friends. Swift seemingly just told us the song was inspired at least partially by his relationship, not hers. Further indicating that Swift and Alywn were not the happy couple we all assumed them to be, those last few years. The pair’s breakup was a tough pill to swallow. He was there for her during some of the darkest times for her. She wrote so many tracks about him, her fear of losing him, and even her fear of her inability to bring anyone she was with “Peace”.
What We’ve Learned
Maybe Midnights was the breakup album. I can break down that theory another time. But it’s clear there was a lot going on that no one knew about.
And while I personally think it will be a while before we get TS11, I don’t think we’ve heard the last of what we will about the breakup. Taylor rarely comes out and explicitly tells us things, especially about her personal life. But she tells us. “You’re Losing Me” was dropped on streaming for a reason. Jack told us when it was written for a reason. And revealing “Sweet Nothing” was seemingly not about her relationship that was for a reason. What is going on behind the scenes to warrant this statement? Your guess is at least partially as good as mine. But it’s her story to tell, and I’ll let her on her timeline.
If you haven’t listened to “You’re Losing Me” you can do so below. It truly is one of the most gut-wrenching songs she’s ever released. You can read more of my breakdown of the song below.